Becoming a Healthy Communicator

My Adopted Mother’s UN- found voice taught me to avoid communication at all cost. My mom was like a turtle who retracted her head in her shell dodging any sign of confrontation or simple communication.  My adoptive father screamed aggressively when needed to communicate instilling fear.  When they had conversations my adoptive mother would freeze up…

Foster Care: A Letter To The Church

Dear Church, Many times in church we are overlooked not because we are sitting behind the women with the big Sunday hat; but because we dont belong to any of the parents in the congregation. Unfortunately,  sometimes the church is another place youth and young adults who have been impacted by the Foster Care system…

Guest On Radio Show: Spiritually Speaking

Guys, I was a guest on a radio show. I had the honor of joining Mrs. Tamala Coleman on her Radio Show called “ Spiritually Speaking”.  Mrs. Tamala is a  Mother, Wife, Minster, Author of 4 books, screenwriter and playwright. Mrs. Tamala is intentional about telling God I used everything it is you have given me. With such…

I’m Not Your Little Girl

One of the craftiest strategies the enemy created was trauma! It kills, steals and destroys whatever it encounters. Trauma can leave you dead on the inside while surviving on the outside.  Trauma totally stunted my maturity. There are so many of us walking around in adult bodies, but our minds are still holding teddy bears. Were…

From Unstable to Committed.

Growing up the only consistency was inconsistency life was chaotic.  I had no idea of what discipline was all I knew was conditional love and inconsistency. God always has a plan for restoration. God is always teaching things we have missed in my childhood. So if you are someone who missed out on certain things God will…

Clinginess and Fake Id’s

Before God began processing me I was extremely clingy.  If you would like to know just read my post  The Confessions Of A Needy Friend.Children are clingy because they are in need of knowing their safety, love and affection is secure. Once they are secure in these areas they begin to adventure into independence. What do…

Breaking Down Stone Cold Walls

New York City building lights are beautiful but when you live in an gated community called  “ I’ll never let anyone hurt me again”   its hard to see anything hopeful.  Trust me this isn’t a sappy post but an exciting one because I’m sharing  about  moving to a new place in my life called” ” No barriers No Limits, No…

Sweet Florida Lessons

I’ve traveled to over 25 states in America, some of the most life changing lessons I learned were in good old  Sunshine State Florida.  In my post Sweet Encounter with FREEDOM  I shared about my experience at King Jesus Miami. But in this post I want to share about lessons I learned from my sister while…

Addressing Inner Wounds

As a person who endured childhood abuse  and trauma I learned to internalize emotions as a way to cope and to survive. If I was hurting I smiled, If I was overwhelmed and frustrated I smiled , When I was manipulated and tormented I smiled. I never really told anyone how I really felt.

Foster Care: Tips on Meeting Birthparents

Meeting my birth mother at the age of 24 came with so many lessons here’s the advice I would give at 28 years old. Get a cup of Tea and  sit down let me share some treasures with you: