This post started from desperate late night Google searches. ” How to overcome a Friendship Break Up” ” Will this pain every wear off” ” What can I do to stop thinking about the friendship that have became family” ” Do they hate me”, ‘”Will we ever be close again ” I never found what I was looking for so God used me to write it. The idea of this post started in 2019. Finally I hit PUBLISH!
I didn’t know it at the time but I was looking for advice filled with Redemption, Grace, Hope, and Restoration. When speaking with my life coach about being super sad and down I remember her saying pray for them. I thought how cliché of course! But actually prayer was far from being ordinary and redundant. Prayer opened my heart and saved me from self destruction. My heart and perspective transformed day by day. This taught me just because we end something with people doesn’t mean we have to hate them or be bitter. But when we pray it changes our heart and our mind. And it even changes the situation at hand. It doesn’t mean we will be what we once were but it means we can be at peace. Sometimes we want old friendships to be what they once were but in reality if we grow our friendship will never be the same but they can be greater than what they were once. The more I leaned on God the greater the pain lost its victory. When a happy thought came about I PRAYED. When hurtful memories came up of toxic and dysfunctional moments I prayed. I don’t mean just pray about it and everything just magical disappears I mean I was raw with God. Sometimes I cried and times I thank God for the season and the good moments. And I cast down the bad memories and I ask God to replace them. Below are some areas of how I prayed for my missed sisterhood:
7 Ways I Prayed For My Missed Sisterhood
Birthday Prayers: Birthdays were always the hardest because I wanted to just grab the phone and just shout happy birthday. Instead I would pull out my journal and write a prophetic word over them and pray for people in their lives to honor them and bless them. I would pray for them as if we weren’t disconnected.
Intercession: I would pray for things God reveal to me or areas I know they may have struggles in. I would also pray for protection over them.
Breakthrough: I pray for transformation to happen in their lives.
Divine Connection: Yup as hard as this may seem I prayed for Divine connection for God to place solid people in their lives. For God to place a community around them
Forgiveness: I ask for forgiveness for hurt I have inflected on them and I would ask for God to forgive them for their wrong doings. I pray for offenses to be broken on both sides. We have to be honest with ourselves and say we hurt people too.
Restoration: When we tend to think of restoration we think of things just going back to the way it use to be but restoration sometimes is God restoring what may have broken us into pieces Sometimes the relationship isn’t restored but our hearts are. So I prayed for restoration in God way and will not my very own. Always ask God his will when praying.
Friendships Lessons From God: I would pray for myself and my friends to learn Kingdom friendship so whatever new friendships they have or I have are 100% led by God and not personally emotions. God teaches how we are to treat friends. In God’s word there is so much on friendship and the best place to learn is from God’s word and also looking about trusted people who have healthy established relationships.
If you haven’t accepted Jesus in your heart and you would like to, here’s a prayer you can pray and get connected to a local church.
Lord Jesus, for too long I’ve kept you out of my life. I know that I am a sinner and that I cannot save myself. No longer will I close the door when I hear you knocking. By faith, I gratefully receive your gift of salvation. I am ready to trust you as my Lord and Savior. Thank you, Lord Jesus, for coming to earth. I believe you are the Son of God who died on the cross for my sins and rose from the dead on the third day. Thank you for bearing my sins and giving me the gift of eternal life. I believe your words are true. Come into my heart, Lord Jesus, and be my Savior. Amen. This prayer is from Dr.Ray Pritchard found