Foster Care: Enjoying Mother’s Day Without A Mom

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An invisible wound each year I would re-pick. No matter how much new skin grew, I would tear it off to once again to feel those overwhelming emotions of sadness. Each year was the same two choices; either I overwork, or sleep the day away. As many prepared for a day of honor for their mothers, I casually breeze past the occasion like a mist on a hot summer day. I was mad at the world because I had mommy issues. The wounds I endured came from not having love and emotional support. I didn’t grow up with my biological mother. I didn’t grow hanging from my moms hip while she tried to do “mommy” things. Yet, I imagine I was the baby left somewhere crying until I became silenced by rejection. Mother’s day was always uncertain to me but throughout the years, God began healing me. With his guidance, I began to learn that Mother’s Day didn’t have to be painful. Mother’s day could be a memorable.

 God’s word promises that he heals the broken-hearted. In addition, another promise God has made is that just like he will be faithfully in my life, he will be in yours too and will place the lonely in families. No one can replace a biological mother’s love, BUT people can love us if we allow them too. While it doesn’t fix the brokenness, it does help mend the cracks. Ultimately, It’s God’s job to heal the brokenness, no one else can do this. Trust me, I use to think people could fill my emptiness. Another sweet promise is God is near to the broken-hearted. So many times we think we are doing things alone, but in reality we are not.  God is with us through everything.

Here are some of the ways God helped me to make Mother’s day joyful before my mother was in my life I Hope this can be a blessing for you.

10 Ways  to Enjoy Mother’s Day without a Mom

  1. KNOW THIS: YOU ARE LOVED no matter what happened. No matter your story
  2.  Pray: Ask God to remove sadness from your heart. Ask him how he wants you to spend the day. You can tell God how really feel, you don’t have to pretend.
  3. Allow Others to Love You: Even though you may not have your birth mom or mother figure doesn’t mean you can’t celebrate Mother’s day.
  4. Absent Mom Prayer: Even if your mom hurt or abandoned you, you can still pray for her. Ask God to help mend her brokenness and pray restoration over her life. Speak life over her. Stand in the gap.
  5. Don’t Spend the Day Isolated: There are so many others who you can celebrate Mother’s day with. Maybe honoring a mother whose children passed away can help fulfill your purpose and spread happiness. You can also spend time with friends who may not be able to spend time with their mom.
  6. Honor a Mother Figure: Maybe you have someone who plays a mother figure in your life. Tell them how much you care about hem.
  7. Write a letter: Maybe your mother or mother figure has passed away. Maybe writing a letter of everything you love about her could help you regulate your emotions.
  8. No Social Media For The Day: If you spend hours looking at everyone else’s photos of their special moments with their mother, it’s going to make you sad. Take a break and understand your emotions before you expose yourself to others.
  9. Talk to Someone: If you are feeling extremely overwhelmed, talk to someone who you can trust. Ask them to pray for you.
  10.  Be Aware: If you have friends or loved ones who lost their mother, reach out to them and ask them if they are okay. Be available to spend some time or be able to take phone calls.

If you haven’t accepted Jesus in your heart and you would like to, here’s a prayer you can pray and get connected to a local church.

 Lord Jesus, for too long I’ve kept you out of my life.I know that I am a sinner and that I cannot save myself. No longer will I close the door when I hear you knocking. By faith, I gratefully receive your gift of salvation. I am ready to trust you as my Lord and Savior. Thank you, Lord Jesus, for coming to earth. I believe you are the Son of God who died on the cross for my sins and rose from the dead on the third day. Thank you for bearing my sins and giving me the gift of eternal life. I believe your words are true. Come into my heart, Lord Jesus, and be my Savior. Amen. This prayer is from Dr. Ray Pritchard 

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