Purity After Sexual Abuse: Part 3 (Exposing Lies & Telling The Truth )


2 years ago God led me to take off my running shoes and confront the lies that have been hindering my journey to purity.  Being sexual abuse for over 15 years I had a whole bag of lies I believed about myself .These lies kept me defeated, enslaved, stagnant, hurt, unforgiving and so much more.  Sitting with God and peeling off the temporary band-aids is a requiement to begin the journey of purity. This isn’t something you can do in your own strength.  Prayer, Fasting, Staying in the word and, connecting with a loved one is helpful.   Maybe you’re wondering how to identify the lies you are believing dont worry I will tell you. You just need to  Pray about it and God will reveal it to you.  Once you identify the lies match it with the word of truth( God’s word). Find scriptures and write them out. And ask God to help you believe the truth. Below I share with you some of the lies I have been believing for years.

 Exposing Lies That Hindered My Purity Journey :

Sexual Abuse is my identity:  Honestly just about two weeks ago God gave me the revelation when people ask me who I am I didn’t need to share with their my sexual abuse experience. Learning more about God I begin to learn there are many great things about myself. I dont need to introduce myself as the girl who has been abused. I begin to stop identifying myself with the abuse and I begin to invest time in myself to learn who God created me to be. I was created in the image of God. I AM NOT WHAT HAPPEN TO ME. (Identity: Genesis 1:27)

Never have healthy Relationships: I believed this lie for years and I always look for people who were unhealthy. Or people who were abused. I thought because I was so broken no one without a past like mine would want to befriend me or understand me. That’s a straight up lie. It’s not about what you been through that draws  people to you it’s about the God you carry inside of you.  I have so much to offer relationships that dont include pain.  God made us with the goal to sharpen one another. We all have something to offer one another. God is still working in this area in my life. ( Relationship: Proverbs 27:17)

I could never forgive: I thought until the day I die I would hate my adopted father. But I can say today my hate for him had diminished and my heart has been filled with grief because to molest a child you have to be extremely hurt and battling with bigger demons than one can imagine. I’ve learned as God uses people the enemy does as well. And I’m not saying my adopted father didn’t have a choice what I’m saying it he made a poor choice. God is the judge and his word says that vengeance is his. So I don’t need to hold try to make sure I get justice. (Forgiveness:  Ephesian 4:32 )

God couldn’t restore innocence: from 3 years old up until my late 20’s, I was exposed to sexually perverted things. I never thought my innocence could be restored. And can I share an awkward thing? When I share my testimony about struggles with promiscuous people say  “I would have never thought that you dealt with that”  God has a way of cleansing us and we don’t look like our last struggles (Restoration: Isaiah 61:7 )

I will never be Joyful: I thought I always was going to be sad and never be able to have real laughs and real fun what a lie. I thought if I smiled when I didn’t feel like smiling I was fake but when you have been abused your feeling tend to need to catch up with you. So you gotta push past those gloomy feelings and challenge yourself to smile. After a while, these feelings will match. But one thing I’m learning is you can’t always trust your feelings. (Joy:  John 16:24)

See you next week for Part 4. Have you read part 2? If you haven’t click here Purity After Sexual Abuse Series: Part 2 Maintaining Your Purity

-You are loved never forgotten

If you haven’t accepted Jesus in your heart and you would like to here’s a prayer you can pray and get connected to a local church. 

Lord Jesus, for too long I’ve kept you out of my life. I know that I am a sinner and that I cannot save myself. No longer will I close the door when I hear you knocking. By faith, I gratefully receive your gift of salvation. I am ready to trust you as my Lord and Savior. Thank you, Lord Jesus, for coming to earth. I believe you are the Son of God who died on the cross for my sins and rose from the dead on the third day. Thank you for bearing my sins and giving me the gift of eternal life. I believe your words are true. Come into my heart, Lord Jesus, and be my Savior. Amen. This prayer is from Dr.Ray Pritchard found on website


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